It’s official: Beanie Feldstein and Bonnie Chance Roberts are the queer Jewish queens of Pride Month. Last June, the couple announced their engagement via a touching Instagram post. And just yesterday, the first day of Pride 2023, Feldstein and Roberts took to Instagram once again to announce that they are now married!!!!!
Last year, I wrote that the Feldstein-Roberts nuptials would “be my personal royal wedding” and folks, the details have not disappointed. Per Vogue, which documented the summer camp-themed wedding weekend, Beanie and Bonnie were married on May 20, 2023 at Cedar Lakes Estate in Port Jervis, New York. The couple described the ceremony as “Jew-ish,” but respectfully, I have to disagree. The ceremony and the entire wedding weekend were extremely Jewish, full stop.
In what Bonnie and Beanie called “a beautiful Shabbat,” the pair were joined by family and friends (including Ben Platt, Noah Galvin, Molly Gordon, Kaitlyn Dever, Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor) on May 19 for a mountaintop signing of their ketubah, or Jewish wedding contract. The event also included a Shabbat candle-lighting, where the non-Jewish Dever discovered “the magic of challah” and Bonnie channeled her “Tevye in Fiddler on the Roof energy.” The next day, Feldstein and Roberts were married under a gorgeous tree canopy chuppah in a lakeside ceremony which had a modern take of traditional Jewish wedding rituals.
“We are both proud Jewish girls, but we didn’t have a rabbi or cantor that we felt knew us both equally and that was very important to us to get married by someone who could capture and reflect us both equally,” Beanie told Vogue, explaining why the couple opted to be married by their guncle Charles. Additionally, instead of the typical sheva brachot (seven blessings) for a Jewish wedding, seven of the brides’ loved ones wrote and read their own personal blessings.
Naturally, Beanie couldn’t help but to become “verklempt,” as Bonnie put it, by the magic of their love. “Under the canopy of trees, the chuppah, standing by the lake, we felt like time was slowing down, giving us the most perfect moment for our ceremony,” Beanie added.
Then it was time to party! As is tradition in the Liverpudlian Jewish community, of which Bonnie and her family are members, the hora took place first. “We started the reception with a bang,” Beanie noted. Later, the brides had their first dance, which was sung by Beanie’s bestie Ben Platt (wearing a Star of David that I don’t think he’s taken off since the Met Gala?), and a treehouse afterparty! In the spirit of something that isn’t explicitly Jewish, but feels Jewish: The wedding cake was gluten-free and dairy-free.
Though there were numerous looks throughout the weekend, both brides wore Gucci. For Bonnie, that meant a a beautiful, baby pink three-piece suit. As for Beanie, she wore a “modest yet sexy” lacy dress with a jewel encrusted bow and her great-grandmother’s earrings.
Interspersed throughout the weekend were notes of the couples’ summer camp theme. After the ketubah signing on Friday night, all the guests enjoyed a welcome dinner which featured decor like bandana tablecloths and woven friendship bracelets, and a menu with s’mores. “I grew up going to summer camp for ten years, and my parents and both sets of my grandparents met at summer camp, so camp is a lineage of love through the generations of my family,” Beanie explained to Vogue. (Though Beanie herself attended Stagedoor Manor, an theater camp, I think it’s fair to presume that her parents and grandparents likely met at Jewish summer camp!)
Mazel tov, Beanie and Bonnie!! Your queer Jewish love is truly a sight to behold. Ben Platt and Noah Galvin, you’re up next!